Living in Ease

Be Well Be Happy

“Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.” – James Baldwin

We talk about listening to the inner voice and making changes to make ourselves feel better in body, mind and spirit. Facing our current state of affairs, our current state of health, our current mental state and our current emotional landscape – often coming up with ideas to make things better. And to the point of Baldwin’s quote above, unless we face what is going on, we can never change it. Stopping saying it’s ok or sweeping things under the rug or letting things roll off of us like someone’s unkind words or behavior, rather than facing the uncomfortableness and making some changes. It’s a matter of checking in with ourselves every day and asking some questions. Does anything make me feel uncomfortable? Do I feel peaceful? Is something bothering me? And then going from there to change what we can.  Happy, healthy living.

But what about when we face things that cannot change at all, like the loss of someone, chronic or terminal illness, or having to be the caretaker for someone. Sometimes it is what it is. The only things we can change about these situations is how we think and feel about them.  We may not be able to control what happened or is happening, but we can control how we react, how we think and how we feel. And this is the power of the human spirit. One thing I know is that it is a process and takes time. We have to create some open space in our minds and hearts and give in to the process of time. For me, this is the way to better my mental state and feel peaceful and loving in my heart.

With time I have understood and felt the power behind the notion “santosha” – contentment. It is not the feeling of utter happiness as in kicking up one’s heels. Rather it is an acceptance and relief that this is where we are at this moment in time, it is what it is. By relieving ourselves of the anxiousness that could be around something uncomfortable or wrong, creates the space to just be. It’s almost like holding your breath and what that feels like and then breathing out and relaxing down. And with that space comes the opportunity to think and feel freely changing the negative way we may be thinking or feeling. 

I often would take people out of “savasana” (final relaxation) when guiding yoga classes with the following breathing intention; I’d like to share it with you. Take a deep breath in for your body that it be healthy and whole, take a deep breath in for your mind that it be clear and serve you well, take a deep breath in for your heart that it be loving and compassionate. 

May you be happy. May you be free. May you be grateful. May you be compassionate. May you let go of things that do not serve you. May you have inner peace. 

 Paulette Mancuso

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