When we decide and feel that we want certain people in our lives and we realize that our family members are our family members, at some point we have to come to peace with certain things. Some things will not change. Some behaviors will not change. Some core things about people will never change - has to do with our natures, what we have learned along the way and the experiences we have had - both pleasurable and traumatic.
Most of what we fret about in the big scheme of things is rather insignificant. So to give it attention and energy takes away from attention and energy we can be giving to other good things. Recently it occurred to me to lighten up and to humor other people just being human. I always have to remind myself that most often what someone says or does has nothing to do with me but rather about who they are and what they have been through. It is relief to realize this.
We’ve all heard “don’t sweat the small stuff” - a phrase overused but there is wisdom in it. So, I wanted to remind myself that some things don’t really mean that much. And then it’s getting easier to move through things that don’t quite feel right. Sometimes we have to express what we feel wronged about; sometimes we leave them unsaid. In any event, sometimes I have to laugh at how “human” we really are. And I can tell you lightening up in this way has allowed me to see the humor in the small and big things.
I also have come to realize - oh yes, some realizations I guess come with age - that sometimes we have to move ahead and lessen what doesn’t feel right, even if that means less interaction or less time with certain people. And trying to minimize the meaning we think certain words or behaviors have, lightening up and maybe laughing it off.
When we are happy and whole, we can do great things for others. Ask yourself if you are happy and whole. If the answer is no, ask yourself why not? And then spread your attention and energy to things and people that would make you feel that way. More time with people who nourish us and less time with people who don’t. It is a matter of taking care of ourselves. Take care of yourself and everyone around you will be happier! And really not taking people just being human so much to heart - not taking everything so seriously: humor the humanness.
Laugh. I have found this gift in this past year. Just laugh it off if you can. “Laughter is an instant vacation.” (Milton Berle) “Laughing is good exercise. It’s like jogging on the inside.” (Kurt Vonnegut)
May you be happy. May you be free. May you be grateful. May you be compassionate. May you let go of things that do not serve you. May you have inner peace.
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