Enchanted Seeker

Dear Enchantress,

I have a silly question. How can I live more enchanted? You seem to understand how to do that, and I watch you do it, you make it look easy. But what does that even mean, really? Is it a mindset, a practice, or something you’re born with? I think I want it, but I’m not sure I understand it yet. I feel like I’m missing something obvious, and I want to get out of my own way. I don’t think I want to be like you, I want to be like me, but more enchanted!?!?!?

Sorry for the confusion.

Dear Enchanted Seeker,

Living “enchanted” isn’t about floating through life or getting everything right. It’s much simpler and much braver than that. It, like everything else, keeps growing, evolving and changing. And how fun and confronting for you to ask. Good for you! And good for me!

To live enchanted (currently) means this:

To leave a person, a place, or a situation a little better than you found it. Sometimes that’s through kindness, sometimes through honesty, sometimes through restraint, or a clean ending, or choosing not to stay where you no longer belong. “Better” is according to you, but it always includes gratitude and grace.

Enchantment lives in attention, you show up where you know it’s right and healthy, and with care, and you are present. And you take good care of how much time and where you share yourself.

The other part, the part it always, always come down to—is trust. Living enchanted requires trusting yourself enough to notice what’s true for you, and then acting in quiet alignment with that truth. Not perfectly. Just sincerely.

When you trust yourself, you stop forcing meaning and start participating in it. You listen. You respond. You choose. That’s not flashy. But it’s powerful. And it could be flashy! If you dare to dress up when no one else is, it’s because you trust yourself.

And that’s why it looks easy, because it’s practiced and it’s the current that moves you through life. So, for instance, you trusted yourself to write this email and question to me. I’m curious if you waited to write it. Or did you write it on an impulse? One quick tip is to highlight when you trust yourself when it feels wacky, or wrong.

I hope you live intentionally with joy and pleasure and overall, I wish you to working towards trusting yourself fully, even when it feels wrong or counterintuitive.

Love,

The Enchantress

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