Jealous Jenny

Dear Enchantress, 

I need help. I’ve been feeling consumed by jealousy, and I can’t seem to stop it. It’s like a freight train barreling through me — fast, loud, and impossible to ignore. I know it’s irrational, and I hate feeling this way, but it’s like no matter how much I try to breathe, think logically, or distract myself, the jealousy grabs the wheel.

I compare myself to others constantly — friends, coworkers, strangers online — and it makes me feel small, insecure, and ashamed. In relationships, it’s even worse. I find myself creating stories in my head, catastrophizing, and reading into every little thing. It’s exhausting, for me and the people around me.

I want to trust. I want to feel grounded in my worth. But right now, I just feel out of control. How do I slow this train down? How do I stop letting jealousy run the show?

 –Thank you

Dear Jealous Jenny, 

First, I want to thank you for your honesty and your brave heart. Naming the freight train is the first magical act of reclaiming your power. Jealousy is one of those sneaky, human emotions that pretends to protect us — but really, it’s a call to return to ourselves.

You’re not broken. You’re sensitive, aware, and deeply caring. The very fact that you want to change means you’re already on the track toward transformation.

Now, let’s talk about slowing down that train. Pump the breaks.

Jealousy often arises when there’s a story under the surface — a belief that you’re not enough, or that there isn’t enough love, success, or beauty to go around. But darling, that’s a lie scarcity told you. The truth? There is plenty, and you are not in competition. You’re in creation.

When you feel the train picking up speed, don’t try to outrun it. Get curious. Ask it, “What are you here to show me?” Write it down. Make it dramatic. Give your jealousy a character and let it monologue. Often, what it’s saying underneath is: “I want to be seen. I want to be chosen. I want to feel safe.”

That’s your invitation — not to fight jealousy, but to hold it like a tender child and say, “I see you. You’re scared. I’ve got you.”

And then? Come back to your worth. Daily. Religiously. Through ritual, creativity, movement, or affirmations that light your fire. Reclaim what makes you enchanted. Because when you’re rooted in your own magic, no comparison can shake you.

You are not the train. You are the track. The sky. The whole damn landscape.

The next level of jealousy is learning that it can actually be a desire, the very thing that you are jealous of, is something you want! So, what is that?

With fierce love and glittery truth,

Enchantress
Shane 

P.S. Next time it barrels in, ask: What part of me needs love right now? That’s where your power lives.

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