Stuck and Seeking Courage
By By Shane Kulman
Dear Enchantress,
I find myself in a place where everything feels stuck, like I’m wading through thick mud with no clear path ahead. I’ve been avoiding doing the hard things, the ones that feel risky, because I’m afraid of what might happen if I fail or if I’m not good enough. But avoiding them is only making things worse. I feel like I’m stuck in a loop, trapped by my own fear, and it’s draining the joy out of life.
How do I push through this? How do I find the courage to take those risks, even when every part of me wants to stay in my comfort zone? I know deep down that growth comes from doing the hard things, but I’m struggling to take that first step.
I’m ready to break free, to start moving forward, but I need guidance. How do I do the things that scare me and get unstuck from this place of hesitation and fear?
Stuck and Seeking Courage
Dear Stuck and Seeking Courage,
What if you ALREADY took the FIRST STEP? Ha! What if reaching out to me for help is the step you already accomplished?!? Oftentimes, so many people think the first step is the biggest one, the one that will yank you out of your comfort zone. Well, now we know that will never work, because we are protecting ourselves way too much to actually do that. And the negative side of taking a BIG step first, is usually running away, and avoiding doing any more, or waiting and never doing anything that feels risky again.
I am going to propose a couple of questions to you…
- What if getting out of your comfort zone could be easier than you could imagine?
- What if you counted your “awareness” as step number 1?
- Could you break down each step you think you have to take into smaller ones?
These are three important questions you could ponder every time you have this stuck feeling. This includes conversations about and with your kids, and other family members, your business, and really in your everyday life!
Feeling stuck is something we all experience at different points in our lives. It’s like being in a dense fog—disorienting, frustrating, and at times, overwhelming. But here’s the thing: fog eventually lifts, and clarity returns.
When it comes to doing hard things that feel risky, the first step is to acknowledge the fear and then shift your perspective. Fear is a natural response to the unknown, but it doesn’t have to be a stop sign. Instead, think of it as a compass pointing you toward where you need to go. Often, the things we fear the most are the very things that will lead to our greatest growth.
It’s also important to shift from a mindset of perfection to one of progress. Understand that doing hard things is messy and imperfect, and that’s okay. What matters is not getting it right the first time but showing up and trying. Be gentle with yourself as you navigate this process.
The feeling of being stuck often comes from resisting change or fearing the outcome. What if you reframed your thinking? Instead of asking, “What if I fail?” ask yourself, “What if I succeed?” Instead of focusing on the potential risks, think about the rewards, the new doors that could open, the growth you will experience.
Lastly, embrace vulnerability. There’s immense strength in admitting that something is hard for you. It’s in these moments of vulnerability that we find our true power. When you’re authentic about where you’re at, it creates space for you to move through your fear rather than getting trapped by it.
You got this! And I am hosting The Video Vixen Mission on social media. I am inviting you personally to join. You can send me an email or find it on my social media platforms and sign up!
To ask Enchantress Shane a question at Love@enchantedemodiment.com
