Sally Seeker

By Shane Kulman

Dear Enchantress, I find myself torn between following the conventional path laid out by society and pursuing my heart’s deepest desires. How can I navigate this crossroads with grace and confidence, ensuring that I honor both my responsibilities and my dreams? My family is pretty old school, and I love them dearly, but I am different, and I don’t want to hurt my parents, but I am not going to live out their expectations of me. I think they are just waiting for me to “come around.”

How do I live my life and not worry or feel like I am disappointing them?

Dear Sally Seeker,

Your inquiry echoes through the ages, resonating with the souls of many who have stood at the precipice of conformity and authenticity. Know that you are not alone in your journey, for countless seekers have tread this path before you, weaving tales of triumph and transformation amidst the tapestry of existence. As you stand amidst the crossroads of duty and desire, let the ancient whispers of wisdom guide your steps, illuminating the hidden pathways of possibility that lie within. The best advice is this: THEY WILL ADJUST.

You can give them information as needed, but all they really really want is that you are happy and you are safe. So be VERY general in your question answering and when it really really matters, you can share more with them. If you feel guilty or worry, drop that stuff, it’s NEVER helpful.

First, pause and listen to your heart, for it is the compass that will guide you through the choices that lay ahead. Take solace in the knowing that your desires are not frivolous whispers but sacred callings, beckoning you towards a life of purpose and passion. Embrace the courage to honor your truth, for in doing so, you honor the very essence of your being.

Next, get a mentor or a coach, a person that will guide you through the new path. Allow their guidance to serve as lanterns in the darkness, illuminating the way forward with clarity and grace. When you get frustrated; read and learn more. Question everything.

Yet, do not forget the importance of grounding yourself in the present moment, for it is here. Start short meditation sessions daily, having a discipline practice, where you separate yourself from the world around you is crucial. Here you will embrace the practice of mindfulness, and actively always be cultivating a deep sense of presence that allows you to navigate the currents of change with poise and resilience, when your old school family begins to bust your chops.

Above all, dear enchanted one, trust in the unfolding of your journey, knowing that each step taken with intention and integrity brings you closer to the realization of your true purpose. And remember, that in honoring your own path, you become a beacon of inspiration for others to do the same.

So lead on! I have a women’s course coming up called “Trust Club” perhaps it’s for you? Let me know if you are interested. It’s especially for sensitive seeker types who love personal development and putting their passion project in the world!

If you have a question for The Enchantress, please email her at love@enchantressShane.com